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Understanding and Getting Over Your Difficult Childhood: Part One

Have you ever noticed yourself, despite your best intentions to heal your old emotional wounds, still being plagued by reminders of your difficult childhood? Have you ever felt that the damage incurred to your psyche was so severe that you probably will never overcome it?

Chances are you’ve been looking around for a solution, possibly even for years, and have found a few things that seem to help, though often only temporarily—maybe you’ve given yourself over to living with easily-ripped-open scars for the rest of your life. Or maybe you’ve been told that healing is a veeeeery slow process that you just have to ride out.

I’m here to tell you that it simply doesn’t have to be that way. Whatever happened to you as a child doesn’t have to be that hard to deal with, and it definitely doesn’t have to take that long.

In this two-part article, I’m going to help you discover the reason that you experienced what you did. And then, I’ll show you how, armed with that knowledge, you can once and for all, get over it, and move on with your life.

What does “getting over it” look like? Well, the details will be different for each person, but here are some of the big-picture things that everyone can look forward to:

• The world will begin to feel like a really fun place; a place that readily opens up to you to deliver whatever you need.
• All of the issues that keep cropping up now—low self-esteem, extreme self-doubt, relationship troubles, and so on—will simply not happen.
• You won’t be concerned with what occurred in your past. It just won’t feel important.
• You will find yourself living in a manner and doing things that you would have never thought possible.
• All of the things you desire will come easily; you will no longer feel thwarted.
• You will be able to effortlessly attract harmonious relationships into your experience.
• You will feel madly in love with both yourself and the world. Life will feel delicious!
• You’ll be truly and deeply thankful for all of your past experiences.
• You will find yourself able to easily manifest absolutely anything you desire.

So, as you can see, getting over it is really the kindest and most productive thing you can do for yourself. So, without further ado, let’s get to it!

Understanding it…

In this section I’m going to talk about the reason behind every difficult childhood, and help you understand that your childhood served a very important purpose. Later, I’ll discuss how you can then start moving past what you experienced.

Why bother with understanding the reason behind it? Well, because the question “Why me?” is oftentimes one of the biggest roadblocks you’ll ever experience. It keeps you stuck in the past. So, if you understand why it happened to you, it’s all the more easy to move forward.

Okay, ready? Here is the reason that you had a difficult childhood:

You chose, before you came into this life, knowing full well what you were getting into, your childhood circumstances because they were the perfect vehicle from which to be propelled down the path you wished to travel.

How do my childhood experiences propel me down a particular path? Because, as you experience your particular life, you begin to form both questions and desires, which serve to motivate you and inspire you—even though at the time it may not always feel good.

For example: you may have questioned how and why people relate to each other in certain ways. You many have become very interested in creating loving and deep relationships because of the things you experienced.

You may have also found yourself asking questions about fairness, freedom, personal responsibility, heath, and sexuality, to name a few possibilities. And, you may have found yourself deeply desiring and asking for better relationships, better conditions, and a deeper understanding of why the world works as it does.

And so, in your adult life, you probably find yourself desiring the very things that your childhood awakened you to—relationships that are better than the ones you experienced, more self esteem, more acceptance, etc. You are probably aware that your whole life was shaped by what happened, but have you ever thought that this might not be such a bad thing?

Why would anyone choose a negative environment over a more positive loving one? Wouldn’t a positive environment be even better able to inspire a desire for the things you mentioned? You would think, wouldn’t you? I know how counterintuitive the things I’ve said so far can sound, but in some lives you want more than the status quo, you want to go further. And the so called negative experiences are the very things that inspire you to do that.

Have you ever noticed that there often seems to be a correlation between those who’ve had difficult childhoods and those who’ve had great success? This happens because great strife leads to great desires, which lead to big ambitions, which lead to big successes. And this is exactly what each of those souls set out to experience.

The tendency is to think that if your experience was such that you found yourself longing, really longing for all the things I mentioned above, that it was not an ok experience. And that because of that you are somehow a victim. But in truth, you came here specifically to have those longings.

You see, your soul is not permanently harmed or scarred by your travails. In fact, you soul has decided to focus its consciousness into your current life simply for the experience of being you, no matter where that might lead.

So, you see, it’s not all bad is it?

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